How one family is turning their loss into a legacy

One of the most precious mementos the family has of their time with baby River is a handful of photos taken by their nurse. When choosing which of the pictures to print and take with them, Kristy and Kendra had a revelation: “we realized as we were going through the photos that there was something we could pass on for future families in hopes of offering them a tiny piece of light through the darkest moments.”

In 2018, the family donated 50 memory cards to Mount Sinai’s Labour and Delivery unit so future families in their position won’t have to try to choose prints of their babies. Kendra adds, “This means that they can take a card with them, so they can feel like they captured every possible second in the little time they had together.” Along with the memory cards, the family collected donations of stuffed animals to share with siblings impacted by the loss of a baby. Kendra remembers the stuffed animals being a huge comfort for her too, “I didn’t put down that giraffe for three days,” holding on to it to anchor her grief.

They’ve now made this donation an annual event, marking River’s birthday. Kendra says, “this is a small gesture for families to hold on to and know that they are not alone. It allows people to feel safe and supported, and it allows us to keep River’s memory alive.” This year, they’ve managed to give even more, and between the family and interested community members, they brought 70 stuffed animals and 64 memory cards to Mount Sinai Hospital to share with other grieving families.

The impact of their donation has come back to the family in ways they wouldn’t have expected. Kendra shares, “a colleague of mine who didn’t know my family’s story before, reached out to me after his cousin had gone through a loss at Mount Sinai. She had been given a stuffed animal and a memory card, and shared the impact that this had made on her to my colleague. It means so much to us to know we are helping other families through a difficult time.”

In April of this year, moms Kristy and Kendra and big brother Finley welcomed Bodhi, the latest addition to their family, pictured above with this year’s donation of stuffed animals.

If you’d like to participate in the Fisher family’s annual donation, you can contact the family through mentallyfit.com.

Thanks to the Fisher family for sending along this lovely photo. While this adorable baby is well supervised, not sleeping, and positioned upright, our friends at Women’s and Infants’ Health thought this would also be a great opportunity to share healthy baby sleep practices. Check out this Health Canada website for more information on keeping babies safe while sleeping.

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